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Thursday, 2 November 2017

My Feather Collection

For the past four years I have been the recipient of feathers of different sizes and colours , each one unique, but with a familiar feel. Each one touches me in some precious way and calls out to my heart “I am here for you.”
The first was given to me on the soft breeze of a summer evening. The sun was setting and two ravens cavorted above me overhead.  My mother had been buried that day next to my father and as I looked up thinking of how they were now reunited a small black feather dropped down, down, down and I ran to it and caught it before it reached the ground.
The second was on the first anniversary of my father’s passing and as I watered some house plants, a tiny yellow feather captured my attention.
The third was white and mysterious on the grass outside my house. It was for my eyes, only, placed in such a way for my discovery on the second anniversary of Dad’s passing. I didn’t know of any birds in my neck of the wood with white feathers, other than Bald Eagles, but this size was unlike those of the great, majestic bird. I ran inside with my find and did a Google search typing in the words “white feather” and within an instant the first image that appeared on screen was that of a white feather, just like the one I held in my hand, with the words “Angel Feather” .
Recently, after attending “The Gathering” a beautiful production about a First Nations youth’s search for meaning, I got into my car and pulled my seatbelt across when something pricked me in the side. I looked down and a mini version of an eagle feather was stuck in my dress.
And two weeks later, on the night of Oct 31st, while assisting my granddaughter with her hummingbird Halloween costume, I again felt a poke and looked down to see an orange feather stuck in my sweater. I was wearing an orange shirt and I smiled because it seemed the angels had chosen a perfect match for my attire.  
Many indigenous tribes, the Aboriginal, The Egyptians, the Celts, and our own American First Peoples believe that feathers are symbols of The Creator. They are highly revered and sacred gifts from the sky. Some believe that they bring stories of the next life.  A connection between us and the Divine. In the Middle East, Peacock feathers have great significance. Some cultures believe that the hollow shaft of a feather carries your prayer up to heaven and God answers and sends your answer back via the same means.
There are many quotes from the Baha’i writings which reference the soul, the spirit, and the heavenly realm and they provide such solace.  Reading the words of Baha’u’llah and Abdul- Baha about heaven , or  the “next world”  and the use of metaphors containing images of birds , such as ….”enable this bird trained by Thy hand to soar in the eternal rose garden”  and “He hath flown to the Kingdom of Immortality”, and “The hearts of such as are devoted to Thee have winged their flight towards Thee” are a source of great assurance and joy.

Whatever the true purpose is of these soft signs coming my way, even if whimsy,  are pure delight and I look forward to seeing further confirmations in feather form and adding them to my growing  collection.





Tuesday, 28 July 2015

The Yellow Feather

One morning just before dawn, I dreamt I picked up an injured yellow bird at the side of the road.  I decided the best thing would be to take him to the local wild animal shelter. As I was driving the canary-like bird to where I could get him some help, he perked up and started to whistle the most beautiful melody.

He jumped up and perched on my shoulder and sang so happily. It was a tune that seemed to thank me for taking the time to offer assistance.

I awakened from the dream in an extremely good mood. I went into the kitchen to get breakfast and noticed that an orchid plant that I had been nurturing had its first blossom open!  Excitedly, I went over to examine it and something caught my eye.  A small yellow feather sat at the base of the exotic plant !

And then I remembered the date. It had been exactly one year since my father's passing!  The significance of the dream became obvious to me. My father loved to whistle, he loved canaries, and coincidentally, he had piloted a yellow Cessna float plane for most of his life.

The logical explanation for the feather was that I had briefly looked after my neighbour's caged birds a few months earlier and I surmised that one of the birds must have lost his feather while preening. However, I had watered that orchid plant many times and had never noticed the feather. But, the spiritual significance of the find wasn't lost on me that morning.  There was no mistaking that Dad was sending me a message to reassure me of his happiness in heaven. 

At that moment, I recalled parts of two prayers that remind me of that dream:

"O God! O God! This is a broken-winged bird and his flight is very slow--assist him so that he may fly toward the apex of prosperity and salvation, wing his way with the utmost joy and happiness throughout the illimitable space, raise his melody in Thy Supreme Name in all the regions..."

and the other:

"He hath abandoned this mortal life and hath flown to the kingdom of immortality..."

Today marks the second anniversary of my father's flight to the next world and in honour of this, I feel compelled to share my dream with you.



Wednesday, 31 December 2014

Making Dying Joyful

Looking back on 2014, I recall fondly my dear mother. She was my biggest fan. She was my biggest promoter.  She would proudly spout "My daughter wrote a book." "Tell them about your book, dear."

I'll tell you about my book later. I want to tell you about my mother.

We celebrated her 85th  birthday in April and everyone at the party put inspirational sentiments in words on paper, for her to pull from a jar. Papers that she could look at each day and be buoyed by our love.  It was a fun party. She enjoyed herself. She seemed to be in pretty good health.

However, she passed away at the end of May. Rather suddenly. But, I know she read every note in that jar beforehand.  She must have gone to the Great Beyond knowing she was cherished.

Here are some of the words written to "Grandma" by grown up grandchildren and little great-grandchildren and other family members:

"I love your radiant smile!"

"I love you so much. I like when you give me money for my purse. That is so generous!"

"I love you always"

"I love your phone calls"

"Thank you for all you do!"

"You are the most poised and graceful lady I know"

"I love your hugs and kisses"

"You are very special to me."

"Every time the topic of mothers-in-law comes up I always let people know that I have the best one in the world"

"I love you for always being there for me and being so loving and supportive"

"You are someone whom I respect and love dearly. I don't think you know how much I love you, or the effect you have had on my life! Your kindness, generosity, sense of humour ,and faith, are some of the many qualities of yours that I admire ."

"What I love and admire about you the most is your pure heart, radiant spirit, and hilarious sense of humour..."

On the evening of her passing, I wrote a note to her on the back of an envelope and pinned it to the bulletin board beside her hospital bed:

Dear Mom,
I love you. See you tomorrow.


(I decorated it with little hearts.)

The nurse called me an hour after I went home and said how sorry she was to deliver the news that my mother had passed away.  I asked her for details. She said that she went to make mom more comfortable for sleeping and had lowered the bed and tucked her in.  Mom had pointed to the note. "What does that say?" she asked.

  The nurse read her my words.

 And with that, my mother closed her eyes contentedly and exhaled her final breath.

Now I will tell you about my book. Because my mom would want me to do that.  It's called Making Dying Joyful ~ Stories of Companionship. The author is me, Gail Bennett Owens. It's available from my website www.makingdyingjoyful.com or you can order it from your local bookseller. 

I miss her terribly. I love her to bits. Forever and always.

Best wishes to all my dear readers. I hope you enjoy good health in 2015.

Friday, 15 August 2014

99 YEAR OLD SEAMSTRESS

Photo: 99-year-old Lillian Weber makes a dress for a small child in Africa every single day!

In the past two years, Lillian has made more than 840 dresses and she plans to make 150 by next May. The reason for this date is that Lillian wants to make her 1,000th dress on her 100th birthday which is at the beginning of May!

Lillian says she starts work on a dress in the morning, takes a break during the midday, and puts the finishing touches to it in the afternoon. She loves making the dresses even though she knows she will never see a little girl wear one.

"I could probably make two a day, but I enjoy just doing the one. It's just one of those things I guess. I learnt how to do it and then I thought why not put it to good use?!"

#LoveLaterLife

This lady makes a dress a day and donates it  to a charity in Africa. She's pretty amazing and her goal
 is to make 1,000 dresses by the time she turns 100! See her story on AGE UK's facebook  page.  Her name is Lillian Weber! 

https://www.facebook.com/ageuk

Saturday, 19 April 2014

Tuesday, 15 April 2014

 I have been meaning to share this sentence from an obituary I recently read...

From my local paper: The Victoria Times Colonist

Hazel was well  known for her wit, sense of humour, positive outlook, twinkling eyes and her amazing appetite: "eating is my favorite indoor sport."  She will live on through her "Hazelisms"

Dear readers of my blog, if you see something in an obituary that you want to share here with others, please get in touch with me at my email:  makingdyingfun@gmail.com

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10152734058400506&set=vb.793615505&type=2&theater

Go Granny Go!!!

I haven't written on my blog for a while but this is the stuff that should be shared! Pardon my absence. Enjoy this dancing phenom.

Monday, 25 November 2013

Making Dying Joyful Book Announcement

Thank you for being such loyal blog followers! 

Please excuse my absence for the last few months.  I was putting the finishing touches on my book. Click on the blue link below and go directly to my NEW website!

Love,
Gail

www.makingdyingjoyful.com

Monday, 2 September 2013

Still Driving at 105!

Did you see this live wire on the news? She's absolutely amazing! The thing that I noticed about her, besides that she can still drive, is that her handwriting is beautiful! She doesn't have a hand tremor!  What makes her so special? Is it her attitude? Is it because she still volunteers?  You watch, and see what you think!

http://www.today.com/news/vroom-donor-gives-105-year-old-volunteer-new-car-8C11037671#

Wednesday, 5 June 2013

Remember This Lady?

She was on Jay Leno playing the harmonica and cracking jokes a few months ago!  She's now 102 and decided to base jump to celebrate!

http://www.cbc.ca/strombo/story-videos/102-year-old-woman-base-jumps-off-a-bridge.html

Just click on the above link and you will see this amazing woman!  Enjoy!

Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Dementia Robs (But It Also Gives)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CrZXz10FcVM


We are in reality spiritual beings. Regardless of brain wasting disease and bodily breakdown our essence is still with us.  Case in point: sweet, sweet, Gladys.

 If you haven't done it already, please click on the YOUTUBE link.

Sunday, 17 March 2013

Lively 100 year old on Jay Leno's show!

http://youtu.be/rajji_4qNvo

spend a few minutes with this 100 year old spark plug! She's amazing!

She exercises every day! She plays the harmonica! She has a terrific sense of humour!

Friday, 15 March 2013

Seniors Healthy Living Expo

The Handi-Darts were circling like covered wagons when I arrived at the Seniors Healthy Living Expo today!  The mini bus drivers were looking for places to drop off and pick up their elderly passengers.  The converted arena was abuzz with the latest in gizmos, gadgets, and Geritol.

As I walked through the front door, I was told that there would be a prize draw for completed passports. Passports, being the type that you take to each  booth to get stamped.  I thanked the young man handing out the passport/guide books and laughingly asked if the prize would be a year's supply of Metamucil!  Unfortunately, I set off before I actually heard his answer!

Motorized scooters weaved in and around those of us who were walking.  At one point while leaning over to ask about some locally made clothing, I felt someone put their hand on me. I looked over my shoulder thinking I'd see someone I knew, and found it was just an old guy trying to steady himself .  There weren't as many wobblers as I expected though. The throngs of mainly white haired seniors were well behaved, savvy, and quite steady on their feet.

Bus loads had come into town just to attend and there were some enthusiastic ladies who you could tell were really enjoying their day in the big city.  They were picking up brochures, entering draws, and taking free samples.

So what do you find at a Seniors Expo besides Seniors?  Plenty of retirement "communities" trying to woo passersby. Free pens galore with names of easy living homes, companion services, Power Of Attorney lawyers, financial services, bequeathment and bereavement companies. Fridge magnets and note pads touting geriatric advice. Peppermints and Werthers in generous supply. Bowls brimming with apples and plates laden with DADS COOKIES.

There was even a mini casino and a spin the wheel to win free swimming passes and get out of jail free cards.
I didn't stop to play. I was on a mission to find innovation at its finest, and do a little networking and contest entering along the way.

No doubt I will be getting calls and emails from enthusiastic vendors who are now privy to my info as I am now privy to their wares.  I have a plastic bag full of brochures and business cards and now must separate the wheat from the chaff.

Here are some things that caught my eye:
~hand made zipper pulls.  Easy to grab for arthritic hands. Makes doing up your coat much easier. I bought one of their zipper pulls for my mom but neglected to get a business card. They are donating $1 from every sale to the Arthritis Society of Canada.

~ComfiHips..."The Most Comfortable Hip Protector on the Market Today" ( I met the inventor!) www.comfihips.com

~a bra that does up in the front and has clips and velcro ... one size fits all (WOW!) and easy for arthritic hands to put on and remove.This is available from www.speciallyforyouuniforms.ca

~ International Nannies and Home Care, an affordable way for Grandma to continue living in her own home. www.internationalnannies.com

~If you care to move to Vancouver Island, there's a new All Care Residence opening soon.  The Sidney All Care Residence will provide Complex Care for short or long term, they also will offer respite and Out Patient programs.  www.allcarecanada.ca

There were two other "vendors" at the expo that warmed my heart completely.  The ladies at the Friendship Force International table explained to me what they're all about. They belong to a unique club that has chapters in 377 communities in 56 countries. Members welcome people from all over their world into their homes for a brief stay and cultural exchange.  Check them out at  www.thefriendshipforce.org

Kudos also to warm and fuzzy booth number two on my quest for the best:  Grandmothers For Africa.  They host events and sell merchandise to help fund the awareness of the work of the Stephen Lewis Foundation in Sub Saharan Africa.  www.stephenlewisfoundation.org

Personal friends Kelly and Louise were in a strategic location, near the entrance/exit doors. Louise's computer guides are a great way for older folks to get proficient on using new technology.  My Parents Got An iPad and My Parents Went Mac, both sold well. We're looking forward to Louise's soon to be published "My Parents Are Great With Windows 8"  www.myparentsfirst.com

After a quick hug (We're all embracing aging!) it was out the door with my bag of Seniors SWAG. It'll be a long time before I will be calling myself a senior but it was good to see what they're up to.

Monday, 11 March 2013

All Things Senior

March is Seniors Wellness Month.  Every month we ought to think of wellness and  healthy aging, whether we are young or old.  I just heard an ad on the radio promoting the Seniors Expo taking place tomorrow at my local arena.  I will go and check it out and let you know what is innovative, cutting edge, and possibly feisty.

In the meantime check out this recent 2 for 1 deal.

http://www.globaltvbc.com/video/double+header+funeral/video.html?v=2338142301#video

Wednesday, 6 February 2013

The Ultimate Comfort Food

Good Ol' Mom, she has her touch on us in times of sickness and tribulation and every holiday event.  Grown men get misty eyed when they speak of "Mom's home cooking." Her chicken soup cures us.  The way she does her mashed potatoes inspires us.

What happens though when Mom gets dementia and is no longer able to manage her kitchen? The fear of her leaving a burner on becomes all too real.  There's another fear though, if she was a good cook and has some recipes stored, you will want to make sure that those don't get thrown away.

This past weekend the newspaper had two articles that appealed to me as a Baby Boomer.  One headline "Recipes helped writer cope with mom's dementia" and the other "Someone to watch over me"...with the sub text "Many childless boomers wonder who will look out for them as they age".  Both journalists did a good job of explaining what our fears are and how to deal with them.

Alex Witchel has penned a book "All Gone"  [A Memoir of My Mother's Dementia, With Refreshments] and chronicles caring for an aging parent which includes working her way through recipes that her mother had given her. The book is described by Diane Lade of The Miami Herald as being "part family history, part practical advice and part cookbook."

The book can be ordered from your favorite book retailer. As an alternate to having the hard copy, you can order it as an ebook as well.

Always looking for things to pass along to you, Anita Creamer of The Sacramento Bee caught my eye and delved into the plight of those who never had children, now concerned about their future and perhaps needing long term care down the road.

Food for thought:  http://www.sacbee.com/2012/11/10/4975282/childless-boomers-wonder-who-will.html

My children, now embarking on their own adult lives have turned out to be better cooks than me and I look forward to the day when I can go to their place for a taste of home.


Sunday, 6 January 2013

A Pure White Soul to Start the Year

In November, I went to a screening of  Dexiny Productions'  "Death By Joy". It's a true and candid story of a lady named Mary who upon receiving a terminal cancer diagnosis, chooses to find the joy in dying.  This movie is not for those who think they would have a problem watching a real person, not an actor, dying.It is for those who want a glimpse into a journey faced with courage and fortitude.

Our heroine, Mary, has a wonderful sense of humour and it shines throughout the hour and a half presentation.  At one point she gets a glimpse of the colour of her soul and hopes to polish it up a bit because it appears to be like that of an old, weathered, tortoise.

That got me thinking about what colour I would like my soul to reflect. Would it be bright pink? Turquoise? Red and passionate? Saints must have pure and clear ones. Sinners, maybe black?

To preview or order a copy of Death By Joy, go to www.deathbyjoy.com

After viewing the documentary, the audience was encouraged by the film maker to express their thoughts.  One lady who identified herself as a cancer clinic nurse said that she thought it was excellent and that it should be widely distributed to as many people as possible. Certainly people volunteering or working in palliative care would get a lot out of watching it.  I think anyone who has had a loved one pass away would find this a bittersweet reminder of how the last days were lived and may see similarities.  A cautionary note:  sensitivity must be used when giving this out to a friend who has recently lost a loved one. The pain and emotion still may be a bit raw if not enough time has passed.

On a lighter note, at the beginning of December I decided I had to get a new vehicle. My 1998 van was costing too much on upkeep.  I made the bold move to order a brand new KIA SOUL.  It has a black interior and the exterior is a gleaming "Polar White". I am still working on shining up my real soul that is my true essence but in the meantime,  it's fun making an announcement that I have a pure white SOUL!